Pain Vs Pain...

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what drives us...
the pain that we get from not doing or the pleasure of doing
In life we face many situations where we are at ends to decide what path to take, each path leading to different direction a different life.Why do we all at one point on the other face the dilemma of choosing one path over the other.Only one thing being certain that choice we take will take something away from us.
...so we think what to, well i say ask yourself..some questions

whether pain of not doing is greater than the pain of doing
whether the short term gain is less than long term harm ...how does it make u feel , do u feel great while doing it..
these questions are valid in any situation
from exams ,studies ,relationships... any situation just ask some relevant questions important to you...and you will find the dark clouds receding...and sunlight coming through...

Deconstructivist Architecture

Gehry's Guggenheim Bilbao

Koolhaas's student center at the Illinois Institute of Technology, Chicago

Naruto.. what so cool about it..

.....Their is this anime ,you might have watched by the name Naruto...
its a story about a boy who wants to become a ninja and eventually the chief of the village.
what's so great about the character is that he never gives up,never backs down. Even his frds call him stupid but he has that positive effect.Its like the guy won't quit or back down from anything and in doing so he gives hope to many who are either on the verge of quitting or have already quit.He makes them believe again... to believe in themselves their own qualities ..that they can be whatever they want to be.let me tell you about a situation in the series,during his chuunin exams the examiner gives all the genin taking the test a choice
1. Take the tenth question or don't take it (Take it or leave it question)
( i) if u take it and fail you will never be allowed for the exam again
(ii) if don't you and all our frds wil fail...but u can take it next year
what would u do..........
In any situation consider any their are pros and cons...
but what matter to a person is not how many pros or cons but the weight of the pros and the cons.. if a particular con is too great it sabotages the situation ............

what happens when the weight of pros is equally great as a con..
pain of not doing is equal to pain of doing something... that is what we call a catch22...
........we will talk about it later ...how to solve this.. of pain vs pain..of how to take the better choice.

Beliefs and Convictions..

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"Under what we think ,lives all that we believe in,like the ultimate veil of our spirits"
-Antonio Marchado
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Consider life ,how we fare in it.. is based on what we believe in ,rather than what we are capable of.If we think we can understand a phenomenon,we accept it, we believe it .
Consider the belief a person has of being sexy.. where does he/she get the idea from.The belief is supported by the fact that people call him/her that, the fact he/she thinks he/she looks good .This might be supported by others.What does this tell you ,this tells you the image a person has is made up of beliefs he has about himself and others.
Now why are we discussing this ,this may come as self evident.
This was just a tip of the iceberg what i am trying to get at is that the beliefs you carry determine your performance.The reasons for your failures or sucesses are your beliefs ..
"Do you have the guts to never give up..."... well most of us don't.. but if u did .. it would be a strong force ..you must have seen some players perform when the chips are down, like michael bevan ,mike hussey ,andre agassi etc.. why do they perform so much better .. its cause they believe that its impposible to give up or to lose tamely...
aren't we indians thought of tame losers in the world of sport...and we hide in the blanket of culture as our escuse..why do we do.. that ! .. we do that it is more comfortable for us to take shelter in our beliefs rather than confront and change them.It takes more effort to change something.. than go along it..
You say how do we change something like that , i say change your belief understand the costs of such beliefs ,are you ready to believe something like being a loser... or not being competent haunt you...make a decision.. (kuch kariye song from chak de india plays in background...)
...i read a book mice and men by john steinback.. in it ..i realised that children don't differenciate between men from color adults do.. take the lessons of the child with you.. remember all good beliefs you had as children..why did they change how did it all change.. from a great world to a the world we perceive now.. it is only cause of our beliefs and convictions..
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Was watching Naruto.. its an anime ..
i realised the main guy.. never gives up.. and when asked by his opponents he replies..its the way of the ninja..the ninja is one who has the guts to never give up...more on this next time..

Society may predict ,but only i will determine my destiny...

Any Given Sunday...

you know punks come in and go .. this league..
they get picked right out of the hood.. cause they can fight or run ,cause they are fast and big and strong.And suddenly they have got all the money and the foxes that chase the money...
and they get to live the dream...
but for every sucker who makes it ..for every jerry rice and barry sanders..they are hundred of nigras u never heard of...
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As we get older ,some things are taken away.. well that's a part of life but you only learn that when something is taken away from you..You find out that life is game of inches...so's football because the margin for error in either game football or life is so small...
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the inches we need are everywhere around us , in every second, every minutes, every hour.And in this world there are no shortcuts, In any fight i am going to tell its the guy who is willing to die who is going to get that inch..

PLeasure and PAin

Activties.. which you feel give u pleasure.. you don't stop doing them , even though long term effects might be harmful...

consider a experience ,you have had if u associate pain with it ,you will try to avoid it ..
pain is not literally pain but.. even something unpleasant.. giving back a loan, listening to classical music , reading some book ,calling up some frd.. etc it can be anything..but if u find it unpleasant you will avoid it..
why does a fat person ,who wants to slim down.. but can't
it cause he /she associates pleasure with eating food .. and pain with not ..
the pain of being fat is less than the pleasure of having great food...
.... many more examples i can give...

why does a particular person who has all the abilities to come first.. doesn't
cause he doesn't feel pleasure in coming first...he has some experiences which make him hate becoming a know it all... these experiences decide our destiny..........

the questions is.. whether the choice to hate something.. is greater than the pleasure of the choice we leave ........................
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i feel we are controlled by our experiences than our intellect...

To Noelia

Quotes from a blog..

What is the opposite of two? A lonely me, a lonely you. ~Richard Wilbur

No one means all he says, and yet very few say all they mean, for words are slippery and thought is viscous. ~Henry Brooks Adams, The Education of Henry Adams, 1907

Warning: Dates in Calendar are closer than they appear. ~Author Unknown

This mess is a place! ~Author Unknown

because here he would be forever a stranger in a strange land. ~in The Good Guy, by: Dean Koontz

Keep a diary and one day it'll keep you. ~Mae West

Things that were hard to bear are sweet to remember. ~Seneca

Life is the goodest good." ~ Zabie Sahial

Other things may change us, but we start and end with the family. ~Anthony Brandt